By guest writer Camille
“I’ll be beautiful when I lose 10 pounds.”
“I’ll be happy when something good happens to me.”
“I’ll be successful when I make more money.”
Unfortunately, setting up expectations only takes us further from the acceptance, happiness, joy, and confidence that we are so desperately in search of. If we are able to recognize our current successes and feel good about what we have accomplished so far we are much more likely to continue to work towards further successes. If we are able to notice what we can appreciate and be happy about in the present moment then we are setting our minds up to be more aware and present with positivity. If we accept our bodies the way they are now we can set ourselves up to build lifelong habits, rather than set extreme diets or short-term goals that do not last and eventually lead us back to where we were before we began. Putting ourselves down is not very motivating for changes or improvements we would like to make. This negative self talk can result in feeling even more dissatisfied and wanting to “fix” even more about ourselves.
Feeling happy, successful, and beautiful is most useful and powerful as a present moment experience that we can extend and build on for the future. It is saying things like…
“I am beautiful now and I will continue to wear clothes that work well with my body type.”
“I am beautiful now and I will start to find new ways of exercise that are fun and leave me
feeling good about myself and my body.”
“I am successful now and I will continue to educate myself to be even better at my job.”
“I am successful now and I will continue to work hard towards career goals to get that promotion.”
“I am happy now and I will continue to take time out of every day to do something I enjoy.”
“I am happy now and I will be grateful for my breath that gives me life today.”
Notice how these statements lead to acceptance of self and acknowledgment of being good enough with room to continue to grow and challenge self. These statements are not judgmental or critical, which allows us to feel and know we are actually a lot closer to our goals and desires than we even know or acknowledge. By recognizing success in the present moment, it is a lot easier for us to be aware of success in the future and continue to be satisfied with ourselves. So, let’s throw out that old phrase of “I’ll be _______ when __________” and instead begin to recognize how the strengths we already possess are what will carry us even closer to where we are already heading.
It is about enjoying the journey we get to take through life rather than being dissatisfied until we arrive at a destination. So I invite you to let go of the discontentment with self and begin to accept who you are in the present moment in order to truly embrace the enjoyment of the journey you get to take through your life.
Guest writer Camille Malecha (soon-to-be Williams) is currently working on planning her August 2015 wedding. She loves spending time with her fiance, family, friends, and of course Lyla (her puppy). Through running, yoga, and outdoor activities she has found her favorite ways to be active, get in some fun exercise, and connect with her true self. She is a licensed professional counselor and currently works with women who struggle with eating disorders. Helping others, being around loved ones, and finding pleasure in life are things that help her connect with her meaningful life.
I love this advice and insight. I believe we can all resonate with it! Thanks Camille!
Your Trainer and Friend,
Cassie and Camille