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Try it Tursday: Selfie!

Recently I watched a very interesting documentary called Selfie by Dove. I found it to be incredibly inspiring and thought-provoking. As a woman, I continue to struggle with what being a beautiful woman truly is. In my teens and twenties I had body image issues like too many young ladies do. I could even confess that those issues like to resurface their ugly faces in my life to date. Many of those issues stemmed from looking at the actresses and models in the public eye and summarizing that I did not measure up. A gap in my front teeth and short stalky legs were a few of the things I liked to hide. In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with a woman or a man slightly concerned with outward appearances. When we get a new hairstyle, lose some extra weight, or sport a new outfit, we can transform into a confident and radiant individual who can possibly project a great energy. However, trying to live up to perfect standards, and deciding who sets those standards is a dangerous road to travel down. Always striving, restricting, adding, and comparing can be exhaustive and consuming. This is not in balance, and to redefine beauty for ourselves and each other, we must take into consideration many more elements than how a person looks on the outside.

What if, for ourselves, we attempt to redefine beauty? When I sat here and tried to think of who out there I think is beautiful, I struggled for a bit. I think there are so many gorgeous models and actresses. But do we, do I, really want my standard to be held to airbrushed photos, private chefs, and people with millions of dollars? This is not real life for most of us, so I needed to ask: What attributes in others are infectious to me?

As the Winter Olympics are being broadcasted, I am in awe of the athleticism of the athletes. To me, their bodies are beautiful. The training, discipline, and commitments that they endure make them beautiful. The love they have for their support network, their sport, and their country make them beautiful people.



When I see my little sister acting as mother, I see beauty. When she is playing silly games and making up songs to get my 7 month old niece to laugh, she shines. She has it together; not perfect, but together. She looks beautiful standing next to her family.

I am often attracted to a woman of strength, a man taking care of his kids, a child speaking truth, or a grandparent owning his or her wrinkles. I love the different shapes, sizes, and colors we all come in. I am drawn to people’s uniqueness. If that is true of me, then why would I be so hard on myself? My gappy teeth? My short legs?IMG_20131225_154708759
I came to a place in my life where I recognized that I would never look like a Victoria’s Secret Model. (Those long skinny legs are just not in the cards for me!) But I know and recognize that God made me the way He wanted me. Woman. Creative. Energetic. Compassionate. Isn’t that beauty?

I would be lying if I said that I wasn’t concerned with my outward appearance. But when I transition the healthy attitude of being the best me I can be, into being consumed with calories, the right clothes, perfection, and faulty standards (set by whom again?),  I easily lose sight of the beauty within. A beauty that is eager to come out.

Just like the short Dove documentary, I encourage you to take a selfie and then think or share something you like about yourself. Something that makes you truly beautiful!

Big smile and showing off those short legs that help me power through a spin class. #habitudeselfie

Big smile and showing off those short legs that help me power through a spin class. #habitudeselfie

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